Today I’m here to answer the question on whether or not you should have a long engagement. It’s reasonable that everyone’s definition of long might be a little different. Anything longer than 12 months falls into this category. Getting past that second year of engagement status might be a little much (for the bride and family!). The average 12-14 month engagement is the sweet spot for most.
Here’s the list (in no particular order):
- Planning a destination wedding – you’ll want to make sure your date is season appropriate for your destination. Take into account best times to travel, hurricane season, etc. for tropical destinations.
- Family health – Take into consideration if a family member is recovering from a serious health issue or surgery. You’ll want to make sure your dad is well enough to walk you down the aisle and for grooms, you want to make sure mom is ready for that mother/son dance.
- Finances – this might be my favorite and most important one. There is no need to go into debt for your wedding. While it’s true that weddings can be expensive affairs, setting a date a year or more in the future will allow you time to save up to make your day special and minimize impulsive (re: costly) choices.
- Different life stages – if your significant other is in med school, finishing up law school, or something similar, maybe it’s best to wait. Weddings are stressful and adding the planning process to schooling may not be the ideal situation.
- Access to your favorite vendors – booking your vendors far in advance gives you an advantage. Planning an event less than six months out may mean that your favorite vendor is booked on your desired date. Aside from that disappointment, you’ll have to go with your second or third choice.
- Smaller guest list – Friends and random family members will come out of nowhere once they hear the news of your engagement, and most will be expected to be invited or will want to have input to your big day. By having a long engagement, these people will eventually lose interest & you can make edits to your guest list.
- Less stress – Giving yourselves more time to plan means less stress. Couples will be less likely to get caught up in the hustle of crunch time with a long engagement period.
So what do you think? Are you a fan of long engagements? Or did you and your love tie the knot as soon as possible?